Building a Community with ADHD

1 Peter 4:8-11 (ESV)

While being a part of a community sounds good, the challenges for those of us with ADHD in creating or joining one are real.  One has to overcome some of the trappings of impulsivity, rejection sensitivity, time management, and of course, anxiety.  What do we do?

The Importance of Community

Community plays a vital role in our health and mental well-being. Numerous studies show that quality of life and longevity are more strongly linked to meaningful human connections than to physical exercise or even medical treatment.  Sounds good right?

It’s worth noting that Jesus modeled the importance of community throughout His life on earth. He gathered a close circle of friends and disciples, not only to teach and serve them, but to walk alongside them in mutual need and support. Jesus didn’t want to walk alone- do we?

Why is it important to you?

Before jumping into the steps of building or joining a community, it’s helpful to first consider your end goal. Is it to meet new people? Learn something new? Serve alongside others? Defining your purpose helps you understand what success looks like.

While connection is a vital part of any community, its true value runs deeper.  The community should resonate with your personal interests, values, and gifts.  If the community is not compatible with your story, it is not likely to be successful, comfortable or long lasting. Which begs another important question. What do you have to contribute?  How long do you want to be a part of this community?  Do you see yourself being involved for years to come?  Consider your answer carefully.  Joining a community is a personal investment of time, resources and energy.  It would not be wise to start before understanding the cost.

How do you get started?

After giving your goals and associated costs careful thought, it's time to take the first step. Here are some ideas to help you find and join a community that fits:

• Pray about it! - In that Jesus reached out to friends and family to create his community, wouldn’t he bless your endeavor to do the same?  He knows you, and He knows who needs you.  

• Research online and on social media – Search platforms like Facebook, Meetup, or Reddit for groups related to your interests.

• Ask your friends – The best recommendations often come from people you already know.

• Explore faith communities – Churches often host small groups, service projects, or events open to the public.

• Check out Eventbrite or volunteer sites – These platforms list local events, classes, and opportunities to get involved.

• Visit places of business – For example, if you're looking for a running group, drop by your local running shoe store—they often sponsor or know of established running clubs. The same goes for gyms, yoga studios, or hobby stores.

• Join a class – Whether it's pottery, fitness, coding, or language learning, shared learning environments can be great places to connect with like-minded people.

Under Promise, over deliver

Now you’re on your way and will likely find something exciting pretty quickly. But take your time! You might feel eager to jump in, get connected, and start contributing to your new group—and chances are, they’ll be happy to put you to work. That’s what community is about: using your gifts to support the whole.

But here’s the thing—be careful. We need to be honest about those ADHD traits, especially the tendency to get energized by novelty. If you take on too much too soon, it can go from exciting to overwhelming really fast.

You’ve this!

Keep your calendar in mind and pace yourself. Start slow, and build on your successes as you go. Burning out or bailing early—and possibly burning bridges—would be a tough and avoidable outcome.

But think about the rewards if you find a rhythm that works for the long haul. Imagine the friendships you’ll build and the fulfillment that comes from sharing your talents in a way that’s sustainable and meaningful.  

Yes, it takes effort, self-awareness, and discipline—but consider the payoff. So get clear on your goals, know your limits, and take that first step. Your community is out there—go find it.